When you live with your partner for decades, they become your whole world. Without them around, you feel aimless and quite lost. But life is unexpected and death is an inevitable part of the cycle of life. However, none of these logical reasons can fill the emptiness left behind by the person you loved the most. The story of Tony Williams is exactly the same. His life turned upside down the day his wife passed away.
According to the Metro, the 75-year-old widower has been living in loneliness since the passing of his wife, Jo in May 2020. With no one to share his pain with, the retired physicist believes he is “cursed” by loneliness. The pensioner spent days at his residence in Alton, East Hampshire without speaking to anyone. However, he had enough of it and decided to do something about it. The helpless man took out two advertisements in the local newspaper just looking for a friend to chat or listen to music with. He also made friendship business cards and handed out to people whenever he went to the supermarket or a walk. Unfortunately, his efforts were all in vain. Nobody showed the kindness to respond or give him a call.
Williams then decided to put up a poster on his window telling people of how much he wanted someone in his life to have a chat with. The heartbreaking poster read, “I have lost Jo, my lovely wife, and soul mate. I have no friends and nobody to talk to. I find the unremitting silence 24 hours a day unbearable torture. Can nobody help me?”
It further stated, “It’s my last resort. I’ve tried everything to make friends, but it feels like nobody wants to talk to me. Not very many people pass my house, but I was hoping it would spread around the community, and someone might reach out.” The devastated man went on to say how the passing of his partner left him all alone.
“Jo was my best friend and we had a lovely life. But now I’m all by myself. My wonderful wife has just died, and I have nobody. All I want is for somebody to see the sign and phone me up. I just want a nice conversation so I’m not sat(sic) in silence all day long,” stated Tony, according to Metro.
He confessed he did not want a person to pour out his pain but just a companion. “I’m not looking for someone to listen to me cry – I just want a normal person who I can chat to! I can talk to anybody about anything. I spend most days just sat(sic) in the house in silence, just waiting for the phone to ring, but it never does,” wrote the pensioner.
Williams and Jo lived in the Forest of Dean, Gloucestershire, for 25 years. They met in a bar and have been part of each other’s lives since then. According to the Daily Mail, they were “soul mates” and the couple had no secrets between them. For years, they spent quality time with each other after their day’s work. “Sometimes we’d spend hours cooking, laughing and listening to music together – it was the highlight of our day,” he said. Their life was perfect until Jo fell ill.
The couple moved to Alton in 2019. Jo fell ill and was later diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. Nine days later she passed away. Williams was by her side till the end. “Now I’m here, completely alone, in the house where my lovely wife spent her dying days. Every time I walk in the room, the first thing I do is look at her photograph,” said the distraught pensioner.
Though his neighbors offered some help, he said he wanted someone of his age as it would be easier for them to understand each other. “I just want a friend, and I hope my sign will find someone for me.”