Former reality star Coco Austin recently shared a photo on Instagram of her kissing daughter Chanel and many users online trolled her for kissing her daughter on the lips. The 41-year-old who shares 4-year-old Chanel with rapper and actor Ice-T received a lot of mom-shaming comments from people online. According to Yahoo News, one user wrote: All that kissing on the lips so much is grossing me out. According to Diply, another fan wrote: Isn’t she a little old to be kissing her on the mouth? Fans were divided as some said that the mother-daughter moment felt “overly sexualized” and “creepy.” Others called it sweet affection and nothing else.
Many people in the past might find discomfort in showing affection to their kids and continue to do so. Behaviorist John Watson discouraged parents from showing their kids physical affection in his 1928 childcare manual Psychological Care of the Infant and the Child. He advised caregivers to be “sensible” with their interactions. He wrote: Never hug and kiss them or let them sit on your lap. Shake hands with them in the morning. Give them a pat on the head if they have made an extraordinarily good job of a difficult task. If you must, kiss them once on the forehead when they say goodnight. Well, this may seem extreme, but child psychology experts don’t really have a clear answer on whether or not there are any possible negative ramifications from physical affection. Dr. Charlotte Reznick, the author of The Power Of Your Child’s Imagination: How To Transform Stress And Anxiety Into Joy and Success, says that while there is nothing wrong with the kiss itself, the experience can be “too confusing” for kids and is not worth it, as young kids may find it “stimulating.” As for Austin, she seems to be busy taking care of her child to notice all the hate online. She’s even put up posts with her daughter enjoying “boob snuggles.”
I will always and forever love your boob snuggles.. Your’e the best lover girl ever!! I cant get enough of you,I can stare at you forever my little baby girl….@BabyChanelworld #happynationaldaughtersday pic.twitter.com/ZH8vVfTyAb— Coco (@cocosworld) September 26, 2020
In March, PEOPLE reported that Austin spoke about her decision to continue breastfeeding her daughter. The model and mother-of-one posted a picture of her 4-year-old nursing, looking up at her mother and placing one hand on her cheek. She captioned the image: At a time when the world feels like it’s coming to an end … suck up as much love as you can! I know the moms out there will appreciate this pic! I’ve been getting a lot of props in the breastfeeding (sic) community and get tons of emails from woman/moms appreciating me bringing light to the subject … I write a baby blog about my journey with Chanel and soon I will write about what it’s like to continue boob time with a 4-year-old.
The former reality star added that she receives “tons and tons of requests” to speak about her experience, explaining, At this point in nursing it’s just for comfort and believe me the girl loves meat so it’s not like she isn’t eating real food … 😁. She concluded: Thank you to all that understand my view … I see most of you are so eager to side with me and I too root for you in your journey as well … Us moms are connected 💗. She added hashtags at the end with “#breastfeedingforcomfort,” “#weenwhentheyareready,” “#toddlerbreastfeeding” and “#teammommy.”
The former Ice Loves Coco star shared in May 2018, “I follow some mother [empowering] pages here on Instagram and I love the inspiring pics they post showing the tenderness and love between a mother and child with or without nursing moments … I love that I can be a part of that.” Austin also previously mentioned in June 2016 that despite her baby daughter taking “instantly” to “the boob” at first, she had recently been “want[ing] the bottle more” and it had “hurt [Austin’s] feelings.
She said, “I’m doing whatever I can because now, she’s growing, so she needs more milk … so I have to go from breastfeeding to formula, breastfeeding to formula, but I wish she would want a little more of me,” adding that she still pumped “every single day” to provide breast milk for Chanel, even though it was often through a bottle.